YOLO or Bust

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About a month ago, something inside of my just clicked.

There was an Oprah Winfrey-esque aha! moment where I was  feeling more confident in my parenting, writing and even — dare I say it — my marriage to my college sweetheart. While I don’t want to blow rainbows, puppies and pixie dust up your ass (I know you get enough of those “Today is going to be an EPIC day!” graphics replete with a fluffy bunny on Facebook and the like), I wanted to share how this gravitation toward self-assurance evolved because, hey, everyone could use a little sound advice, right? And while the below may sound all-too familiar, well, we all need a nudge in the right direction when we feel down in the dumps.

Things have got to get shitty before the sunshine comes out to play. I broke my foot, I packed on 12 pounds, I felt left out on a few lucrative work deals, Breaking Bad is in its final hour, my husband works too much, I painfully miss my parents in N.J., yadda yadda yadda. You get it. Being an adult is hard. Being a working mom is hard, squared. Mentally, I needed to clear out the cobwebs, dust, guilt and baggage. But it takes a valley to savor the peak, capisce?

Stay positive and the baddies will disappear into ether. Here’s the thing about me… somehow I got the Power of Positivity gene that so many of us unfortunately feel we lack. The good news? You, too, can harness positivity even if you believe it’s not something which inherently resides within you (that in itself is a belief — not a reality! Flip the switch already). Aside from keeping a chin-up/glass-half-full outlook on life, I re-read books by Eckhart Tolle, follow people like Gabby Bernstein on Instagram (she’s the Queen of Self Affirmations), and indulge in my healthy hedonistic delights such as Pilates, perfecting recipes, teaching my kids how to play Uno and feeling the soothing slip-slap of the ocean on my  tummy. In other words, engage in dopamine-drip-inducing activities and keep a chipper outlook on things — the baddies will dissipate and the goodies will come. The Law of Attraction — like energy attracts like energy — works. If you want sunshine, well, you best manifest sunny sentiments. Just ask Chris Brown on that score.

Recognize the click and cling on to it like a tween on Justin Bieber. Remember that click I mentioned in the first sentence of this post? Feel it, embrace it, visualize it. Invite it into your core like a welcomed guest. In other words, acknowledge the shift and bow down to it. Ruminate in all its merry-making glory. The click is the shit! Cling on to it with dear life — and enjoy the high. Thank the Universe for this blessing and beckon it to stay a while.